About Me
My mission is to empower single women to embody their emotional selves as magnificent feminine power so that they can attract emotionally available, quality partners and create true love in a trust-based, committed relationship.
I strongly believe in the power of love and relationships.
Because most of the issues in life, at their source, are relationship issues and therefore love issues.
Nothing is real, except love!
First and foremost, I was a very successful professional woman as an economist, project manager, executive manager and diplomat. On the other hand, I had difficulty in mating and ended romantic relationships for three decades while living in five countries on three continents.
I always seemed to have a pattern of selecting partners based on physical attraction and a good profile on paper. When the relationship came down to a serious level, the partners I chose were mostly emotionally unavailable or immature and unable to commit to a serious relationship.
I was the one working hard, giving too much and chasing men to make the relationship survive. I recognized throughout my experience that my dating mindset and partnership perspective were not serving me to be in a trust-based and sustainable relationship with a quality partner.
Along with my self-mastery journey, I discovered that romantic relationships were especially challenging for me as a highly sensitive and super-empathic person.
I spent my childhood and young adulthood hiding my hypersensitivity and avoiding my emotions as I didn’t feel safe and comfortable expressing my emotions to my parents.
As my mother lost her mental health before I was born, I didn’t have physical contact with my mother for the first three years of my life. As she went through complex PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), she suffered from depression, anxiety and sleep disorders. My father was a doctor and most of the time physically and emotionally absent. Growing up with an emotionally disconnected father and struggling in an emotionally enmeshed relationship with my mother made me feel unsafe and uncomfortable to connect to and communicate with my emotions. That’s why I learned unconsciously to avoid my emotions in my early childhood, which made me suffer from an autoimmune disease for twenty years.
To unlearn the emotional avoidance, I went through a journey from self-abandonment to a deep connection with my physical sensations, thoughts, and feelings. I learned to be responsive to, unlearned to control, and relearned to be present with my emotions consciously, consistently, and compassionately. I transformed my weakness into power, wisdom and feminine energy to live heartfully and authentically.
In this embodiment process, I worked with various professionals and experienced different tools and techniques to integrate my body, mind and heart that helped me recover from a life-threatening disease.
My thirteen years of marriage with a Canadian-Dutch and moving from Switzerland to The Netherlands as a love-expat expanded not only my emotional intelligence but also my cultural intelligence in intercultural romantic relationships. I went through the deepest transformation of my life.
I lived in three countries while dating my ex-husband for three years. I thought that I had chosen a partner to share my life with and only later did I realize that I was in a complex multicultural relationship. The divorce was an emotional turbulence and taught me to be emotionally strong, stable and resilient and build a true love identity.
My fear of abandonment combined with emotional avoidance prevented me from being vulnerable, emotionally present and eventually building trust-based lasting relationships not only with my ex-husband but also with all my ex-partners.
I was the reason for attracting emotionally unavailable partners with avoidant attachment. That’s why I was the one who broke up and left all my romantic partners before the relationships ended in their perspectives.
I strongly appreciate the lessons I gained from this inner journey. It made me passionate about helping single women make wise decisions about their partner and relationship choices because love is a choice and whatever you choose it becomes your reality.
My mission is to empower international single women to embody their emotional selves as magnificent feminine power so that they can attract emotionally available, quality partners and create a soulmate love in a trust-based, committed relationship.
When it comes to making wise decisions, communicating your emotions and trusting in yourself are essential skills because emotional embodiment connects you to your inner guidance system(GPS) and guides you toward a conscious decision about your partner and relationship choice.
I’m a certified Conscious Dating® and Relationship Coach, Mindfulness and Yoga Trainer, and Emotional Embodiment Educator.
I studied coaching at the Relationship Coaching Institute(RCI), and hold credentials as a Professional Certified Inspiring Transformation Coach and Relationship Coach.
Originally coming from Turkey, I coach clients in English, Turkish and Dutch. I also mentor my clients as a mindfulness and yoga trainer and an emotional embodiment educator. I’m a proud member of the International Coaching Federation(ICF).
It’s safe to say that I know my stuff! These accreditations and experiences have enriched my approach and given me an insight into the wide variety of personal challenges, mindsets, backgrounds and cultures that inform the unique needs and unresolved issues of my clients. I’ve coached over-achieving, international single women through their self-mastery journeys to discover their authentic selves. Now it’s your journey! How can I be so sure? I’ve been where you are now!
Since 2010, I have supported many intelligent and over-achieving single women to discover their true love identity. They recovered from the loss of pain they lived in their past relationships. They expanded their consciousness by becoming aware of their limiting beliefs, needs, feelings, and relationship requirements. They became a conscious chooser while dating intentionally with a purpose and vision.
As the majority of my clients originally come from collective cultures and live in Western European countries, they are also faced with the challenges of working and living in an individualistic culture while dating and relating. These challenges lead to deeper transformation in their personal and professional lives. They built a new, loving, and compassionate relationship with themselves through my holistic guidance for emotional embodiment.
In embodiment, I work with a personalized blend of somatic awareness, meditation, mindfulness, yoga, and energy work. My compassionate approach helps my clients feel safe and free for a transformative journey. Once they have discovered the true value of who they are by having employed a newly ingrained belief system, they manifest and attract true love for a meaningful relationship they never thought was possible before. Many of them also develop a new and emotionally intimate relationship with themselves. As a result, they attract emotionally available, high-quality partners to their lives with clarity, courage and confidence.
My passion is to empower successful single women to manifest and attract true love so that they can create meaningful and fulfilling love relationships. I help them embrace their emotional self and express their feminine magnificence authentically in love as a main pillar of intimacy and trust for a harmonious and sustainable relationship.
I have been working with clients from all over the world online and offline in The Hague, The Netherlands.
- Mindful Self-Compassion Training – Centrum voor Mindfulness (CvM), The Netherlands
- Mindfulness Trainer – Trained & Certified by Centrum voor Mindfulness (CvM), The Netherlands
- Attachment & Trauma Mastery Courses by Dr. Dianne Poole Heller, USA
- Relationship Coach – Trained & Certified by Relationship Coaching Institute(RCI), USA
- Inspiring Transformation Coach – Trained & Certified by Relationship Coaching Institute(RCI), USA
- Kids Yoga Teacher – Trained & Certified by Fiore Osmose Yoga, The Netherlands
- Yoga Teacher – Trained & Certified by Yoga Vidya, The Netherlands
- Life Coach and Counsellor – Trained & Certified by Academy for Coaching and Counselling (ACC), The Netherlands
- MA – International Finance – University of San Francisco, USA
- BA –Financial Economics – University of Ankara, Turkey
Whether you’re new to my world or have been following my work for some time, here are some more personal information that you probably don’t know about me:
- I am a highly sensitive person (HSP). For those who don’t know about HSP, it’s a personality trait that involves increased responsiveness to both positive and negative influences. I’m overwhelmed by noisy crowds, bright lights, and uncomfortable clothing. For instance, I can’t listen to music while reading a book.
- I’m an empath. I’m gifted with connecting and helping other people process their emotions in depth. As this is happening organically, it costs me great energy to protect myself from the burden of others’ emotions.
- According to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), I’m a Mediator type of person. Even though I seem quiet and introverted, I have a vibrant, passionate inner life. I’m idealistic, intuitive and have a caring, creative approach to everything I do and have.
- My Enneagram personality type is The Investigator. I seek understanding and knowledge to work, plan and make decisions in my life. My curiosity makes me feel at peace and ease while processing my mental and emotional states, others and the world around me.
- I’m more of an introvert than an extrovert. So, I need a lot of time, space and energy for myself. As I have a super gift that I feel and reflect the messages of the emotions of my clients even more than themselves, I need to retreat to my cocoon for a lot of alone time and recharge my batteries.
- I love driving and have 4 driving licenses in the countries where I lived for at least two years. The safety rules for drivers, passengers, and pedestrians on the road expanded my cultural intelligence while driving in these countries and exploring their cultural diversities.
- I used to be a success-addict and workaholic. Thanks to my burnout, I radically changed the definition of success in my life. So everything became effortless and joyful in my life. For me, success is loving myself, loving what I do and loving how I do it.
- I have loved dancing since my childhood. I have been dancing bachata for the last 5 years.
- When I’m not working, I enjoy reading, writing, cooking, walking, biking, painting, watching arthouse films, listening to music, and planning travels and adventures to explore Mother Earth, cultural and artistic centers.
- I describe myself as spiritual but not religious. My consciousness is my soul; or my soul is my consciousness. They are one and the same. For my consciousness, my soul moves within me; guides me and connects me to reality.
- My spiritual growth is a leverage to overcome the challenges in my life. Getting up early, doing yoga and meditating is my daily ritual to empower and celebrate my being every day.
- I strongly believe in the power of love and relationships. Because most of the issues in life, at their source, are relationship issues and therefore love issues. Nothing is real, except love!